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It should be a common sense supposition that sheltering together Women and Men suffering the same abuse can be a positive. Yet, it is a tough sell when the causes and application of abuse are perceived to originate solely from one gender.
It does make sense that both Women and Men can be helped through receiving similar support and treatment, but in practice we struggle as a society to even acknowledge that one gender is abused in quantifiable numbers.
Difficult to aspire towards cross-gender support under those conditions. Domestic Violence is almost exclusively measured as physical attacks, as laws allow for the most protection when there is physical evidence.
Because typically Men can bring to bear a greater amount of lasting physical damage, this has always been regarded as a gender issue. An overwhelming amount of Men will not report instances of domestic violence against them, most importantly because it is more likely any abuse ..
will be perceived to be coming from them. Domestic abuse practiced by Women comes predominantly out of resentment of their need for what the man they are abusing provides (or lack there of). The abuse is largely emotionally shaming abuse and manipulative passive aggression
- they could just leave if they are unhappy yet remain, resenting feeling as though their options outside of the relationship, even in divorce, are unappetizing, then abuse can follow and extend even to physical attacks. You could suppose that Men in these situations could leave
, but then wouldn’t this be victim blaming, or when referring to Men, has victim blaming been rebranded as fragile masculinity? This is merely skimming the surface painting in broad strokes. There are many issues to cover on this topic, many nuances to illustrate, and ....
many indelicate truths to work through. I do believe that Men and Women can learn from each other during support and treatment, I’m just not certain exactly how this can be navigated. What shape this might take is worth intelligent discourse.
