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Sometime ago a very good friend of mine visited (a lady), and before she left we took some pictures. Later that evening, I posted the picture on social media and as expected, comments were flooding in.
Then something happened.
A social media connect of mine dropped a comment.
Then something happened.
A social media connect of mine dropped a comment.
Before I tell you what her comment was, let me tell you a little bit about her.
We are close, we have done business together, we respect and trust each other, so we banter easily without anybody taking offense.
So the comment she dropped was really a banter, directed wrongly.
We are close, we have done business together, we respect and trust each other, so we banter easily without anybody taking offense.
So the comment she dropped was really a banter, directed wrongly.
She wrote: "CJ, so this is the the lady that made you reject my proposal, it's not as if she is even beautiful" (referring to the lady in the picture).
Ordinarily, that comment meant nothing to me because firstly, my friend is not ugly and then, we banter always.
But...
Ordinarily, that comment meant nothing to me because firstly, my friend is not ugly and then, we banter always.
But...
My friend read that comment and went red with anger.
She called me immediately and expressed serious concern. I know her very well, and I know when she is really angry.
Trust me, at that moment, she was.
She insisted she won't reply that comment, but I must go and do that.
She called me immediately and expressed serious concern. I know her very well, and I know when she is really angry.
Trust me, at that moment, she was.
She insisted she won't reply that comment, but I must go and do that.
Now this comment is something I should have ignored if the banter was directed at my person.
Unfortunately, she directed it at a lady she doesn't know. They don't know themselves, so my lady took it personally. I tried to convince her that the comment was harmless.
Not her.
Unfortunately, she directed it at a lady she doesn't know. They don't know themselves, so my lady took it personally. I tried to convince her that the comment was harmless.
Not her.
What did I do?
I called up my friend (that dropped the comment) and made her understand that it was a joke taken too far, considering the fact that she doesn't have a relationship with the other lady.
As expected, she told me it was a joke and she doesn't mean it.
I called up my friend (that dropped the comment) and made her understand that it was a joke taken too far, considering the fact that she doesn't have a relationship with the other lady.
As expected, she told me it was a joke and she doesn't mean it.
Of course, I know she didn't mean it, after all she didn't ask me out and I declined.
She apologized instantly and asked me to screenshot our chat and her apology and send to the other lady.
I did, and she was pacified instantly.
The matter was settled amicably!
She apologized instantly and asked me to screenshot our chat and her apology and send to the other lady.
I did, and she was pacified instantly.
The matter was settled amicably!
No matter your relationship with people, don't make jokes of other people in their lives. While they might understand and take it lightly, the other person might not.
And in fighting for their person, they might hurt you or hurt your friendship.
And in fighting for their person, they might hurt you or hurt your friendship.
Regardless of other things that happened in the GEJ and Shola saga, the boy used the parody account to INSULT GEJ's wife.
I don't know any man that will smile and overlook an insult directed to his wife.
Even if you don't love your woman, you won't let a stranger insult her.
I don't know any man that will smile and overlook an insult directed to his wife.
Even if you don't love your woman, you won't let a stranger insult her.
