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A rant on queer identity So some chatter about gatekeeping in the queer community has me thinking a lot right now.
I’m bisexual. But I have never felt “queer enough” to actually claim membership in the LGBT community as anything more than an “ally” and tbh I still don’t.
I had a girlfriend for 2 years at uni. We were both super in the closet and that relationship was completely secret from everyone, even our closest friends. We were sorority sisters and, even at a school as liberal as Berkeley, that just was not accepted. I lived a lie for 2 yrs.
By the time I came to grips with my sexuality and felt secure enough to “come out”, I was already in a long term committed relationship with a man (now my husband), so I didn’t really bother. A few friends know but most don’t and none of my family knows.
For all intents and purposes, I am committed to DAT STR8T LYFE
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So am I part of the queer community? Am I “queer enough” to tell queer stories and embrace that voice?
I feel like a lot of LGBT people would say no. So I just cheer from the sidelines, I guess.
. So am I part of the queer community? Am I “queer enough” to tell queer stories and embrace that voice?
I feel like a lot of LGBT people would say no. So I just cheer from the sidelines, I guess.
Anyway, I just kinda came to the realisation that I now feel as closeted by the judgement and expectations of the queer community as I do from the straight community...and I’m not sure who that serves.
So maybe think about that before playing gatekeeper on someone’s identity.
So maybe think about that before playing gatekeeper on someone’s identity.
