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curious about ppl who play gatekeeper around diagnoses (ADHD, ASD, OCD, etc.)
it seems like self-isolation bc itâs not usually something I see in the context of actually managing a boundary around a group/community so much as individual identities
maybe itâs a validation thing?
it seems like self-isolation bc itâs not usually something I see in the context of actually managing a boundary around a group/community so much as individual identities
maybe itâs a validation thing?
like this âdonât say youâre depressed if youâre really just sadâ or âdonât say you have ADHD if youâre really just procrastinatingâ seems to amount to an assertion that ppl shouldnât claim their problems are as real as yours unless they have a Drâs note
âIâm valid, youâre badâ
âIâm valid, youâre badâ
it validates "real victims" by invalidating "posers", sets them apart in this weird blursed way
keeps others out of their lil box which they feel justified in remaining stuck in, or so it most often seems to me in gatekeeping moments
"you actually could, but I really can't"
keeps others out of their lil box which they feel justified in remaining stuck in, or so it most often seems to me in gatekeeping moments
"you actually could, but I really can't"
puts a ton of faith in the (imo *extremely* shady) psychopharmacological industrial complex.
there's something else that bothers me about it but I'm having a harder time articulating it
something about how the common denominator to all these DSM thingies is trauma and no one has had no traumatic experiences and it seems dishonest and divisive somehow
hmmm
something about how the common denominator to all these DSM thingies is trauma and no one has had no traumatic experiences and it seems dishonest and divisive somehow
hmmm
yeah I think I'm uncovering at least what I think my unconscious preference is around this sort of thing
I'd prefer there were more honest discussions of individual traumas and how they created self-limiting patterns, frank, forthright, individual, from experience not authority
I'd prefer there were more honest discussions of individual traumas and how they created self-limiting patterns, frank, forthright, individual, from experience not authority
the weird ownership vibes around fancy psychology words sidesteps this in a way that tends to come off as rather defensive to me and I see a lot of missed opportunities in these sort of moments to be seen and understood in a much deeper more connecting way, if that makes sense.
there's nothing so special about struggle. most ppl exp some of the symptoms of all of the stuff some of the time
there's a sort of terminal uniqueness and overidentification in believing only X ppl can talk about Y experiences & I think it ultimately does everyone a disservice
there's a sort of terminal uniqueness and overidentification in believing only X ppl can talk about Y experiences & I think it ultimately does everyone a disservice
I guess I can empathize with what perhaps might be something like a horrible sinking feeling one might feel if they sat with some realization like "my struggle is no more or less valid than anyone else's" but that's not the side of the coin I'm looking at right now I suppose
what I see right now is the side of the coin that is like "basically everyone has the capacity to understand and empathize with what I'm going through and they probably even get it well enough to offer me meaningful support if I ask for it and am receptive to it."
I should say that part of the reason I'm able to have this perspective is because psychologists couldn't fit me in any of their boxes. I do remember a time when I desperately hoped I would fit in a box so someone could fix me. If I had fit in a box, I may have gotten comfy in it.
I want to take mental health support and untether it from all the little authority-certified boxes and give it to everybody because I just don't think anyone really has it that easy honestly
we're all in this together
we're all in this together
