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I used to believe the consequences for past decisions would be I either wouldn't get married or would have to work harder than others to prove that I deserved a relationship and family. Much of that was because I believed sexual agency was the crux of my faith identity.
There was so much I had to unlearn about who God is in order to get to place where I fully understood that God loved me much more than I was giving God credit for.
Our futures are not consequences. They are canvases ripe with endless opportunity and possibility.
Our futures are not consequences. They are canvases ripe with endless opportunity and possibility.
My deepest hope for every single Christian sister who desires partnership is they will find spaces that will equip them to give God much more credit for the capacity of God's love in their lives. And I hope that credit and capacity yields them room to do the same for themselves.
I wish I could tell every sister who wants to be married and have a family that it's all right around the corner and will happen sooner rather than later. I want that for them as much as I want it for myself. Unfortunately, life doesn't work like that.
The best thing we can do, as we *actively anticipate and wait for the promise, is love ourselves better. Loving ourselves better is going to have to mean walking away from toxic and harmful theologies. It's not easy to do but it's got to be done.
There were some sisters I know personally and some who have reached out to me about other things who cosigned that "sowing hoe seeds" posts. Do you not know that double mindedness is instability? You can't be praying for freedom while polishing the chains that have you bound.
You've got to make a decision. There's no way around it.
It's 2020 and, even in a pandemic, there is access to much more freeing theology from people who are trained, equipped and called. They may not be on any of the fliers but they will care for your heart and your spirit.
It's 2020 and, even in a pandemic, there is access to much more freeing theology from people who are trained, equipped and called. They may not be on any of the fliers but they will care for your heart and your spirit.
Most of this stuff really just isn't smart. But, more than that, it's mean and hurtful–designed to force you to believe something about God that isn't true.
Do God and yourself a favor. Get free.
Do God and yourself a favor. Get free.
