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This year was a deadly year for the trans community, marking one of the deadliest and filled with extreme violence. The United States saw a record 29 deaths so far, one every twelve days. #TDoR2020 
https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/transgender-day-of-remembrance-deadly-year/
https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/transgender-day-of-remembrance-deadly-year/
When we look at these numbers and this horrific pattern we MUST name the Black trans women who met violent ends. Transmisogynoir is abhorrent in every single one our communities with a deep history of Black trans women being the most disrespected.
In my article in Briarpatch’s Land Back issue, I directly point out how the work on dismantling this violence in on everyone who specifically isn’t a Black trans woman. I want to point out a very specific thing: I expect white trans women to do more. https://briarpatchmagazine.com/articles/view/land-back-means-protecting-black-and-indigenous-trans-women
I say this because white trans women are also apart of the problem. As an Indigenous trans woman I have first hand seen the lateral violence and racism from white trans women directed to BIPOC trans women.
But also the cis, non-trans women community need to really do better.
But also the cis, non-trans women community need to really do better.
So tomorrow: I will be watching who posts about #TDoR2020 and will be in your mentions if I think you’ve done poorly and need feedback. So many only ever acknowledge us in performative ways so I’m going to hand you your ass. You have a responsibility to do better by us.
and will be in your mentions if I think you’ve done poorly and need feedback. So many only ever acknowledge us in performative ways so I’m going to hand you your ass. You have a responsibility to do better by us.
Tomorrow: Pay up. Budget a monthly donation, reach out to Black and Indigenous trans women and commit to monthly support. Not just one time donations. Commit to continuous support and checking in. Commit to getting them groceries, sending them flowers, paying for their HRT.
It’s time to also have conversations with your transmisogynistic friends and hold them accountable. Why keep shitty folks close if your hands will always be bloody? Do more than sign petitions and attend a memorial march here and there. Commit to doing the work.
I want to see commitments and social contracts on how you will protect BIPOC trans women. I don’t want to see some performative posts.
EXAMPLES ON HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT TRANS WOMEN:
1) In your employment are there health and benefits? Do these cover affirmative procedures and HET? If not you can advocate for them yourself.
1) In your employment are there health and benefits? Do these cover affirmative procedures and HET? If not you can advocate for them yourself.
2) If you witness a circumstance of transmisogyny or have some tell you that you were present it’s your job to listen and support while also taking on the duty to educate the person who caused this harm.
3) Just because they are your friend doesn’t mean you get to let your discomfort overrule the hard conversation on accountability you need to have.
4) Unpack your own gender hierarchy and conditioned transmisogyny. It’s not up to us (BIPOC trans women) to be your educators.
5) If you are being told you have caused harm don’t be upset or belittle this feedback because of the delivery. The violence you enacted is traumatic and triggering, we don’t owe you gift wrapped feedback, that’s transmisogyny also.
6) Don’t reach out unsolicited to apologize for your transmisogyny without checking in first, especially if you realized you gaslit someone. Make it known that you fucked up and be accountable without asking for absolution from those you harmed. It doesn’t work that way.
