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Grief is a constant complex companion.
6 yrs since Ki'tay passed. I am learning daily-sometimes hourly.
With so much loss, grief, heavy hearts, suddenly ceased texts/calls, I will share a bit:
Life is as short as it is fragile. Don’t wait to love your people & love them good.
6 yrs since Ki'tay passed. I am learning daily-sometimes hourly.
With so much loss, grief, heavy hearts, suddenly ceased texts/calls, I will share a bit:
Life is as short as it is fragile. Don’t wait to love your people & love them good.
Knowing that someone who passed knew/felt your love can give you a sense of something better than if not (not very articulate but that’s what I have at the moment).
Grief can be a disability, can cause disabilities, can alter disabilities you already have (or make them interact with each other differently). Grief must be respected.
Take all the time you need. Honor the time that people need/take.
Take all the time you need. Honor the time that people need/take.
Grief is fluid & spectral-held and expressed differently by everyone in each moment. Don’t judge, compare, critique, make timelines/expectations for yourself/others.
Reach out to folks when others have stopped reaching out.
Reach out to folks when others have stopped reaching out.
Grief/death cliches & “my person/pet died too” stories are harmful & they're the only thing most ppl know to share. Give them grace. Silence is oft bttr than anything you try to formulate. Just be present. If you arent in a place to be present, be clear/honest abt where you're at
Religion/spiritual cliches/traditions are oft used as a stand in for actual support/care & can be particularly harmful. Just bc you believe in a tradition doesnt mean that others do & death/grief isnt the time for you to force your beliefs onto others. Quite the opposite in fact.
relition/spiritual cliches cont'd: Challenge yourself to expand your knowledge & change your approach.
The death of others oft reactivates grief in those you think “should be able to understand”. Sometimes things that are stereotypically considered “happy” activate deep sorrow/grief for ppl who've lost folk. Give others/yourself grace. No expectations.
We can/must develop all that is necessary for our communities to discuss & hold sorrow/death/grief.
I hope folks will share lessons on your grief journeys as you feel led.
#DisabilitySolidarity
#KitayLives
#KitaysTruths
#Justice2050
I hope folks will share lessons on your grief journeys as you feel led.
#DisabilitySolidarity
#KitayLives
#KitaysTruths
#Justice2050
