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"Why do I have to go to the other room, when both of us can stay here? Why can't I stay with you" Princess asked me few days ago. And I knew it was time to have the talk 
. I had avoided this talk for as long as possible, Mehn...but it had to be done
. I had avoided this talk for as long as possible, Mehn...but it had to be done
No, not that talk. We all know about the talk which is about sex and reproduction (the one where your mamas told you you'd get pregnant if you said hi to a boy 
), but the truth is when you're a parent, you're going to have a lot of The Talks. It was time for this one
), but the truth is when you're a parent, you're going to have a lot of The Talks. It was time for this one
You see, this is my first few months of actually living with my kid,so I'm learning new things about myself as a parent. One of my biggest lessons is that I get tired of being around people,including her. For the longest time, I fought this feeling. Few days ago,I had to admit it
So when she asked me why I wanted her to give me space, I knew it was time to talk. If I didn't explain, she might think I just don't like her. Imagine making your kid feel like you don't like them. The problem was now "How to tell my kid, I can't be around people all the time"
In a minute, I had to put my judgment of myself aside and make a decision. We were at this bridge,it had to be crossed. So I asked her to help me in the kitchen as I made pancakes. I still had no idea how to start. Me oo! A whole speech maker like me . Parenting will humble you
. Parenting will humble you
So I told her to check her phone dictionary for the meaning of introvert and read it out to me. She did. I was smiling to myself when she asked "What's a personality?" Idiot like me! How didn't I realize, that was where to start from? 
Well, that's where the talk started.
Well, that's where the talk started.
I sha had to shamelessly consult Google to describe a personality to her. Then we moved on to the meaning of an introvert and extrovert. She seemed to get it...she's sharp that one. Now the thing is, I'm neither an extrovert or an introvert 
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Wahala
. Wahala
I started explaining what an ambivert is. Someone who has both introvert and extrovert qualities. So while I appear hyper and like the life of the party, I get mentally drained after I'm around people and I need time to recover. She asked "Shouldn't it be different with me?"
Me:
Me:
Unfortunately, the answer was No. Being a parent and loving your kid will not strip you of your default settings. Which is what many parents don't get,so we try to be perfect to and for our kids. You can modify your personality to accommodate dem kids, but trying to deny it is BS
So I found myself explaining to my kid that I'll be exhausted after being around her for a while so when I ask her to give me space,it doesn't mean I don't love her or want to be with her. It means I need to recharge so I won't be cranky when I'm around her/ transfer aggression
Turns out she thought she was an extrovert, but she might be an ambivert too. I told her not to be too quick to define what she is,we'll figure it out together. She hugged me and gave me hours of space till I missed her. I guess if I ever get married, I'll have to have this talk
