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Women need to stop retreating behind their petticoats and whining “misogyny” at every criticism of a powerful woman.
That’s a vulnerability display - and is such a *stereotypically feminine* way of getting a man to back off that it’s hilarious. https://twitter.com/mayatcontreras/status/1345063527917223939
That’s a vulnerability display - and is such a *stereotypically feminine* way of getting a man to back off that it’s hilarious. https://twitter.com/mayatcontreras/status/1345063527917223939
In reality, your “this feels icky” response to stuff like this is a vague recognition that a certain deference by men to female vulnerability is due and appropriate - at least in some circumstances.
Your problem is that you feminists want to have your cake and eat it too. You want to trigger every bit of the *chivalrous* protective instinct in men whilst simultaneously declaring them monsters and yourself not vulnerable at all.
And the jig is mostly up, ladies.
And the jig is mostly up, ladies.
Ima tell y’all a story now, about how this whole “vulnerability display” thing works. The husband and I like to wrestle (more so before we got old and creaky). Just for fun, being silly, and maybe some sex stuff thrown in there too.
So one night I playfully pop him w/a throw pillow, and we commence wrestling. He’s pinning me repeatedly, but I’m game, and we’re laughing, having a good time.
Him: You know you can’t beat me at this, right?
Me: <attempting to throw a leg over and trap his arm> Sure I can!
Him: You know you can’t beat me at this, right?
Me: <attempting to throw a leg over and trap his arm> Sure I can!
Him <has me pinned again> Nah, you can’t
Me: I can get out of this if I want. <lame struggle>
Him: Suuuure
Me: You wait <another futile feint>
Me: I can get out of this if I want. <lame struggle>
Him: Suuuure
Me: You wait <another futile feint>
And then? I winced and went small and still.
Know what happened? He **instantaneously** let up. “Are you okay?“
Me: HA! TOLD YA!
Know what happened? He **instantaneously** let up. “Are you okay?“
Me: HA! TOLD YA!
Because that reaction right there that he just did? That is the *instinctive* reaction of normal, healthy, non-sociopathic men to a vulnerability display by a woman.
And it’s not wrong or bad - on his part or mine. It’s a good thing.
And it’s not wrong or bad - on his part or mine. It’s a good thing.
And while mischievously faking that in a fun wrestling match makes for a cute story, dragging that dynamic into the power and political sphere to make men jump *and then not even cop to doing it* is wrong.
Stop it, ladies. It’s not fair.
Stop it, ladies. It’s not fair.
Not only is it not fair, it takes a *lot* for a man to excise that response out of himself. Men have to do truly terrible things *to themselves* to stop defaulting to “protect the woman” when triggered that way.
Has it occurred to you that jerking them around via that instinct, to the point they start actively trying to quash it in themselves, is a really good way of getting some truly awful men?
Fools.
Fools.
