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the problem with a lot of online conversations is lack of clear, shared definitions and inability to immediately gauge intent. like, 'cancel culture' and 'racism' and 'queer' each have multiple different meanings depending on who you ask.
compounding that is the fact that a lot
compounding that is the fact that a lot
of people aren't here to have productive conversations, they're here to score points and win arguments and look good to their fans. this asymmetry of goals is why 'winning' online arguments is dependent on whether you're even playing the same game.
this becomes a problem when
this becomes a problem when
multiple people are using the same shared space (in this case, twitter) for wildly different goals and not knowing that's the case.
easy example. if I complain about something, that is not an appropriate time for you to make a joke about the thing I am complaining about.
easy example. if I complain about something, that is not an appropriate time for you to make a joke about the thing I am complaining about.
another factor that makes things difficult is the parasocial nature of online relationships. over familiarity bounds into rudeness when you don't know a person well enough. Add different cultural expectations, language barriers...
what I'm saying is: try to be clear when you
what I'm saying is: try to be clear when you
talk online what it is you're actually trying to say.
I have a personal rule that I'm not allowed to tweet when I'm angry (yes, believe it or not, whatever you see is after I've calmed down already) and it has gotten me out of a lot of bad situations by not landing me into them
I have a personal rule that I'm not allowed to tweet when I'm angry (yes, believe it or not, whatever you see is after I've calmed down already) and it has gotten me out of a lot of bad situations by not landing me into them
