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listen i am most absolutely a 
fujoushi and although me (and other ""problematic"" accs) absolutely do not owe anyone an explanation, I will be very generous and give the children an explanation
fujoushi and although me (and other ""problematic"" accs) absolutely do not owe anyone an explanation, I will be very generous and give the children an explanation
- let's talk about gender roles and expectations in media! women and femmes have literally been stereotyped and fetishized and reduced to two-bit caricatures Since The Advent Of Media! especially women of colour because m*n do not give a fuck about respecting them 
paired with all the discrimination and pressure and abuse that we face in real life, every single day, this has led to a rather large group of femmes/women that Cannot Quite Stand the way we continue to be hurt in Those Same Ways in media
this is why there's a rather significant number of wlw/lesbians who ship mlm; aka, are fujoushis--removing all the pain associated with the stresses of real life allows them to more easily get into the characters/stories of the ship/series
BUT XIAO, i hear you keyboard smash, that is Fetishization and Bad!
let me tell you why that argument is in Bad Faith
let me tell you why that argument is in Bad Faith
1) fetishization is something that happens in ALL media types/ships/pairings--it is not 'because' it's mlm that it's fetishized, it's because shitty people do shitty things
"traditional" straight media fetishizes women just as much/more, you're just conditioned to not notice
"traditional" straight media fetishizes women just as much/more, you're just conditioned to not notice
it's like saying mint chocolate is disgusting and pointing to the fact that most people think milk chocolate is tasty, so clearly liking mint chocolate is Wrong and Bad
you're forgetting the fact that society is the one that decided those arbitrary rules, they're both just food
you're forgetting the fact that society is the one that decided those arbitrary rules, they're both just food
so! given a "food" that makes them stressed and remember how people treat them badly in real life, versus a "food" that they can actually enjoy and escape the stresses they face for a while without hurting anyone, what do you think a reasonable normal adult is going to choose?
bUT XIAO I HEAR YOU KEYBOARD SCREECHING, YOU'RE NOT A MAN SO YOU DON'T GET A SAY IN WHAT'S FETISHIZING
ahahahahhahaahahaha i'm a trans guy. shut up.
ahahahahhahaahahaha i'm a trans guy. shut up.
ONCE AGAIN I should not have to disclose my whole history for my points to be valid, but I will Indulge The Children
I'm AFAB, and accept any pronouns only because I look so feminine that it's too exhausting to correct everyone all the time
I'm AFAB, and accept any pronouns only because I look so feminine that it's too exhausting to correct everyone all the time
A LOT OF SO CALLED 'FUJOUSHIS' are also nonbinary/trans in some way and mlm media is half-wish fulfillment
like god do I ever want to date another m*n again in my life? absolutely not. do I wish kaeya alberich and diluc ragnvindr were real and i was one of them? absolutely yes
like god do I ever want to date another m*n again in my life? absolutely not. do I wish kaeya alberich and diluc ragnvindr were real and i was one of them? absolutely yes
I understand having a knee jerk reaction to "wtf gay media bad!!!"... even if you're lgbtq+ yourself... it's way too ingrained into us and society and i find myself facing the sharp end of that stick a LOT so trust me, I Know How Much It Makes Gay Kids Hate Gay Stuff
If you're hating on fujoushis, I want you to stop and ask yourself why you're doing that, but not giving the same energy to hating the general media that fetishizes and mocks women, gets trans men k-worded
because society said that's fine, and you've subconsciously accepted it.
because society said that's fine, and you've subconsciously accepted it.
it's okay that [REDACTED] k-words their classmates in danganronpa, it's okay that GoT has a million (straight/lesbian) violence/assault scenes, and all that is "exploring the human psyche and limits"
but when it's mlm, that's suddenly not okay?
but when it's mlm, that's suddenly not okay?
we all have subconscious biases. no one is "unproblematic" and "totally righteous" that literally goes against how humans and society/cultural shifts work
if you're against fujos as a whole group, you need to take a look at the biases you have against femmes or mlm
if you're against fujos as a whole group, you need to take a look at the biases you have against femmes or mlm
do not even try to say "I don't!! I respect all LGBTQ+ and minority groups!!!"
there is no such thing even for the most saintly of activists, even mother theresa got tired and jaded, you as a 17 year old teenager are absolutely not free of biases because NO ONE IS
there is no such thing even for the most saintly of activists, even mother theresa got tired and jaded, you as a 17 year old teenager are absolutely not free of biases because NO ONE IS
so if you want to play identity politics, if you want to use "I'm a gay guy so what I say about mlm goes!!!!" then checkmate from an AFAB transmasc POC who is TELLING YOU THAT FUJO CULTURE ISN'T INHERENTLY PROBLEMATIC 
