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I was thinking why are some of the young kids here so naive that they trust strangers so easily.
I suddenly remembered something that happened last year and I checked my old DMs. I became active on twitter last Feb. A guy, doctor from Chennai with whom I had a mutual started +
I suddenly remembered something that happened last year and I checked my old DMs. I became active on twitter last Feb. A guy, doctor from Chennai with whom I had a mutual started +
following me and he initiated a conversation. He seemed nice to talk to. But within a week's time there was a distinct change in the way he spoke. It was very clear he was hitting on me (vazhiyaradhu) and I didn't find that connect with him. I avoided chatting but he'd ping me +
incessantly. At one point I unfollowed him. He saw that and asked me about it and I told him what I felt. He told me to cool down 
I put this behind me.
But reading my chats today, I realise that I had shared way too much info about myself which was not at all needed +
I put this behind me.
But reading my chats today, I realise that I had shared way too much info about myself which was not at all needed +
Why didn't I handle this situation better?
- I felt obliged to answer his Qs.
- I didn't know I could be curt (cos he seemed nice).
- I clearly didn't know how to set my boundaries.
I would not call this person a creep. He probably didn't know that he was coming on too strong.
- I felt obliged to answer his Qs.
- I didn't know I could be curt (cos he seemed nice).
- I clearly didn't know how to set my boundaries.
I would not call this person a creep. He probably didn't know that he was coming on too strong.
Once I made a couple of friends here, I felt safer. When they see me talking to someone on the TL that they feel is not okay, they've told me about it. But it takes a while to build that network/circle of friends who watch out for you.
If you find a guy/girl talking to someone whom you feel could be problematic, please caution them. Whether they want to take your opinion is upto them. In most cases they simply won't know what they are doing. You are definitely doing them a favour. :)
