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I see a lot of unhappiness on the timeline with respect to a certain romantic holiday. I guess I’ll add my two cents. If you’re 18 and “tfw no gf” gets you down, maybe this 23 year old can offer you some tips just based on my limited dating experience.
—You need to get to know a girl before asking her out, and that doesn’t mean DMs on Twitter; she could be perfect on paper but you’d be surprised how important it is to interact & gain familiarity, what you learn intuitively that way
—When you start dating rather than just friends that changes *everything*. The whole paradigm shifts. Men, take caution. You will suddenly feel great *responsibility* to demonstrate commitment, protect her, etc. This is a *good thing* but it can bite you if you are not careful!
—Make your decision and act with strength, she doesn’t want to be strung along wondering if you are for real, but this does *not* mean you act rashly. Act prudently. With Valentine’s Day coming up this especially means do not let an arbitrary holiday compel you to act rashly
—Not having a gf isn’t that bad. I’ll tell you what is worse: being in a relationship you know isn’t going to work out but you don’t want to leave because those male instincts I mentioned compel you to protect your lady. So use wisdom. Seek counsel. Consult with family. Etc.
—To elaborate on that, be comfortable being single. You have your goals, but do not let your desire to find a wife drive you to do stupid things! Sometimes men simp, others will get into relationships they could have known wouldn’t work but they were blinded by loneliness
^ I have done both of those and learned from my mistakes. This all takes self control. Sometimes an iron hand on your impulses to make good decisions. But it’s worth it.
—The right girl *will* come along, but you have to be patient. Mingle in the right circles, find your people. Send the right signals. Be a Chad. Improve yourself. Pray, read, lift. She will be looking for you. Seriously, she will. And you’ll be in a better position to see that.
—A year is not a long time. 2 years is not that long, and a lot can happen in that time. Time spent single is not a curse but a blessing, an opportunity. Rather than dooming and glooming, become the man you want your future wife to marry. Again, she’ll be looking for you.
—It will all be worth it. Set your sights on long term goals. Dating is a means to an end: marriage. It won’t happen tomorrow, so always focus on the little steps you can take today to move towards being the virtuous husband to the virtuous wife you are looking for.
–I'll add that dooming on the TL about "no gf" is not recommended. Women want to know that you are confident and self-sufficient, not dependent on them for emotional comfort or something. Again, be the Chad every woman wants; that reorients everything in the right direction
