Thread by @zoespokenword, So the interesting thing about dating is that I didn't realize until [...]

So the interesting thing about dating is that I didn't realize until I was like 25 that it actually shaped my worldview about many things...
Lemme start at the beginning when I was 5 and chasing boys in the school yard

Well actually I was not chasing boys to be honest. I felt that they were all doing the most to try and impress so I was just there sha

But I noticed that there were some girls that used to get a whole lot more attention than me. These were the pretty girls that the boys wanted

to hold hands with

I was not one of those girls. I was the playmate

but it didn't bother me so much until I reached my more formative years.
Everyone made it seem like if you were not 'liked' or 'fancied' then there was something wrong with you.
Interesting thing is....

I actually did get male attention but not the way the 'pretty' girls did.
Anyway, I grew up believing that at some point I would blossom and become a pretty girl and get all this attention. And I was getting there... But God picked me up and put me in a completely new country

I had to start from scratch. And that's when I began to seek the counsel of the Lord by myself and I finally knew what God's voice in my Spirit sounded like

I could talk to God about anything..... Except dating

I did not realize that God was very interested in this

aspect of my life. I felt like as long I was growing spiritually, we were on the same page.
I found that it was very easy for me veer off track in a number of things when there was a 'love' interest. I did not really deep that I allowed myself to be led emotionally when it

came to relationships. And the truth is that if there is one part of your life that you do not hand over to God, you have left space for darkness to fester.
I started seeing my friends from high school getting married, from Facebook - one after another (what an emotional trap

)

Side note: don't go on Facebook too often if you're single and waiting to mingle

I started asking the question "God, when will you do mine?" and..... He wasn't saying anything

So I decided to start taking matters into my own hands. Number one mistake

I realized later that I actually was not mature enough to understand what God thought concerning me in a relationship but you know, you always think you're grown when you're just getting started.
So I took the silence as a non-opinion and.... made mistakes

It got to the point where I began experiencing symptoms of depression.
Dear brethren, never find yourself there. I was still serving, still leading in church, and still speaking in tongues but there was a disconnect. And it was just because of bad choices in this area of dating.

So I got to the point of realizing that I was not where I was supposed to be and pulled myself back on course with the Word of God most especially with 'The Power of Your Mind' - I recommend this to young people

Side note: try picking two chapters of interest from TPOYM and spending two weeks to meditate on it. See what happens

So when I was back on track, yet still dealing with the aftermath of bad choices, I had a conversation with the Holy Spirit and He basically told me plainly

That He would tell me what I have the capacity to take and that it's not everything that He can tell me at this time - that is why He did not tell me then about what He thought. And I was like

I thought to myself "This is an overdue conversation..."

And truth is the Holy Spirit was ready to tell me that but I had not readied myself to accept it. Proverbs 3:3-5 was a Scripture I knew but did not do until that moment. So now, I get relationship advice from the Holy Spirit and it covers ALL relationship - not just the potential

life partner ones.

Sooooooo....... that's a story.... My story. And I have more to share which I will be doing Sunday evening live on Facebook. I'll tweet the details soonest

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